Who do you need to become?

Who do you need to become to accomplish your 2019 goals? You have some new goals for 2019. Or perhaps you’re like me and you have some repeat goals that you’re determined to accomplish in 2019. But, the reality is this – the person you are today isn’t the exact person you’ll be to accomplish the 2019 goals. Otherwise, the goals would have already been accomplished – right?! In other words, in order to accomplish your 2019 goals, you’ll have to identify who you need to become.

Lessons from Atomic Habits

Last week, I devoured the Atomic Habits book by James Clear. It’s one of those books that you need on audible, but also the physical copy for highlights and notes. There were so many AMAZING concepts in the book (yes, you’ll want to read it), but one that really struck me was around identity questions. This paragraph was profound for me:

“Once you have a handle on the type of person you want to be, you can begin taking small steps to reinforce your desired identity. I have a friend who lost over 100 pounds by asking herself, ‘What would a healthy person do?’ All day long, she would use this question as a guide. Would a healthy person walk or take the cab? Would a healthy person order a burrito or a salad? She figured if she acted like a healthy person long enough, eventually she would become that person. She was right.”

Isn’t that AMAZING?! Now, Clear refers to these as identity questions, but I’m tweaking it a bit for me personally to call it Identity/Calling Questions. I spent time time thinking, praying, and journaling – asking God what my questions would be. I wanted five questions that really encompassed the important aspects of my life and who I felt God was calling me to be. Here’s what I came up with.

My Identity/Calling Questions:

  1. What would someone fully dependent on God do?
  2. What would a healthy, active person do?
  3. What would an amazing wife, mom, and friend do?
  4. What would a successful business woman do?
  5. What would an inspiring leader do?

It’s been amazing to see how these simple questions have become vital for taking those small steps toward the person I really want to be. I now find myself asking myself one of these questions numerous times throughout the day.

“You cannot become what you need to be by remaining what you are.” Zig Ziglar

I challenge you this week to think about who you need to become to accomplish your 2019 goals? Spend time brainstorming with God. Ask Him to show you what your Identity/Calling Questions need to be, so you can become the type of person that makes their goals a reality! Who do you need to become?


  • Kim S. Hawkins

    January 24, 2019 at 7:59 pm

    Love this blog post! A few months ago I started reminding myself that successful people do things differently when I was wavering on a decision. I’ll add the question you posed here to my arsenal for future reference.

  • Jenna Ernstes

    January 31, 2019 at 12:04 pm

    Hi Kelly,

    I want to thank you and I am so grateful for your message and your tenacity! You are an amazing woman that is helping all of us! Praise God for you and mission.


  • Kathleen Ellis

    January 31, 2019 at 1:02 pm

    LOVE this idea, Kellie, thank you for sharing! <3
    Blessings & Beauty to you~

  • Kimberly

    February 1, 2019 at 5:20 pm

    Thank you Kellie. You challenge and inspire us all to be our best selves. A true woman of God. 2019 is definitely going to be different because I will be and do different. I will do the hard things. Praying on my questions.

  • Kimberly

    February 1, 2019 at 5:21 pm

    Kelly, sorry I spelled your name wrong.

  • Deborah L White

    February 7, 2019 at 3:47 pm

    I did make some big decisions in November, December and January. I personally became semi-retired from my Life Coaching business (yes I still take clients), my Husband has taken a job in Illinois as I stay here in Kansas in our purchased home and close to our Grandchildren. I have saved $25,000 in one year from our normal salary in case of emergency’s etc., In two years our two cars and brand new 2018 camp trailer will be paid for and I have made some significant changes in my health/lifestyle with a lot of research to match me and my body needs. Most of these decisions are wrapped around retiring for my Husband in three years. We are sacrificing what we are doing now for the long hall for later. We have built a strong marriage that will continue if we are in the same home or not. Now we live IN the dream we have for being healthy and retiring happy and financially sound. I give God all of the glory. Decisions today ARE accumulative and you WILL reach your goals. One small decision will lead you easier into larger ones.

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